In our society today, certain behaviors and choices, particularly among young people, are increasingly normalized. However, it is vital to recognize that what we tolerate ultimately becomes the standard. I recently had an experience that underscored this point, and it compelled me to share my perspective on the role of parents in shaping societal values.
I visited a service center to reactivate my phone line and encountered a young man whose hair was styled like a woman's. He seemed entirely comfortable flaunting this hairstyle. After completing the initial steps of the process, he informed me that I needed to return the next day to finalize the procedure. Before leaving, I asked him, "Young man, if I plait my hair like yours, would you like it?" After hesitating and likely estimating my age, he replied, "No, I wouldn't like to see you with plaited hair."
I responded, "Then I advise you to remove your plaited hair as well. Are you a woman?" He admitted he wasn’t, so I said, "It's women who plait their hair unless you are trying to tell me you are gay, and being gay is an abomination."
When I returned the following day, I noticed the young man had removed the hairstyle and treated me with increased respect. This incident reaffirmed a truth I’ve long believed: if we see something wrong and fail to correct it, those involved will assume it is acceptable in society.
The Role of Correction in Society
When people are made aware that certain behaviors are unacceptable, they often adjust their actions. This principle applies not only in public settings but also in the Church, where I have had similar encounters with young men. I never shy away from correcting such attitudes because silence implies approval.
Observations on Indecent Dressing
Today, on my way home from Church, I saw three young ladies dressed inappropriately in spaghetti-strap tops, with one riding on a motorcycle, her entire back exposed. If questioned, they might justify their attire by citing the heat. But does the heat justify exposing oneself in public?
As a father of four daughters, I can confidently say that none of them dress like this, even at home, especially when visitors are present. I wonder: do these girls’ parents see them leave the house in such clothing and say nothing?
When society accepts darkness, that darkness is eventually mistaken for light. We must correct our children when they dress inappropriately, ensuring that their attire reflects dignity and respect.
The Link Between Dressing and Perception
Our dressing often communicates who we are. Unfortunately, indecent dressing has become a contributing factor to the rising cases of sexual harassment and rape. When individuals dress provocatively, they risk being perceived as inviting unwelcome attention. Dressing modestly does not eliminate the risk of assault, but it certainly upholds personal dignity and reduces unnecessary exposure to potential harm.
Parents, not pastors, bear the primary responsibility for instilling discipline and values in their children. While pastors can offer spiritual guidance, the home is where foundational lessons about morality and societal norms are taught.
Let us not fail to correct our children when they err. By doing so, we uphold the values that ensure a respectful and honorable society for all.
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